It’s no secret that women have some very specific pleasure points on their body, and hopefully your guy is no stranger to the clit and G-spot. Yet you might be surprised to know that the male body also has particular trigger spots that—when stimulated—will send him over the edge. Orgasm is the release of sexual tension, and tension is created through gradually increasing and varying touch and pressure on his passion points.
# F Point
When giving him oral sex, let your tongue slide over that area. With your hands, stroke it with your thumb while you move your fingers around the shaft. To slowly build his arousal, go back and forth between stimulating his F spot and the less sensitive base of his penis.
Start your foreplay by giving him a foot massage: Have a warm towel ready and then place his feet on a pillow on your lap. Use the warm towel to wipe his feet and get them warm, and then focus on this point by taking your thumb and gently rubbing it around this spot as a transition to a more erotic kind of rubdown.
# P Point
our best bet is to talk to your guy outside of the bedroom before you try to finger his anus so he doesn’t get any unwanted surprises. Try bringing it up during a romantic dinner by saying you love making love with him, and want to experiment even more. You might say that you heard stimulating his prostrate can trigger a really intense orgasm, and see if he would be down to try it later on. If your guy isn’t comfortable with you using your fingers to gently penetrate the area, there are other ways to stimulate his prostate.
Many guys are heavily conditioned to focus solely on the genitals. “If you expand his capacity to have erotic experiences throughout his entire body, you can open up a whole other world of possibility for him,” Michaels says. The thumb is actually a sexy spot for a lot of guys. To suck on a man’s thumb evokes sucking on something else, and can help him connect his mind and body during lovemaking. Start off foreplay by gazing into his eyes as you kiss his hands, and then suck on his thumb as a promise for what’s to come.
If you’re with a man who enjoys this, start by stroking around the aureole and gently tweaking the nipple with your fingers. Lick around it and suck on it, increasing pressure and gently biting it. Nipples can be twisted and pulled to great effect, too. Try a pair of nipple clamps when he’s really turned on. It will keep blood flow in the area, increasing sensitivity and keeping them at attention. Or try sucking on an ice cube and then sucking on his nibbles. The contraction of his nipples due to the cold can heighten the sensations.